Quote:

H: I made a mistake
M: (really? That only makes…let’s see…4,852,743) With what?



LOL!

Quote:

M: I have plans
H: Oh.
M: Forget it, I’ll cancel…
H: No, I’ll have my mom drop him off with you Friday morning.
M: H, I’d rather cancel my plans. It’s no biggie.
H: You sound angry.



Boy, you do a great martyr! The least you can do is let him be inconvenienced by your plans, do NOT cancel them!

Quote:

H: Meri, please don’t….
M: (exasperated) don’t what?? H, I am not mad, I swear to God I am not mad…I’m tired is all…



Liar, liar, pants on fire You were too mad.

Okay, look - I'm giving you a whack with a 2x4 because I recognize this dance all too well - used to do it with my H. The key is - either speak up or put up. If you're not willing to tell him the truth ("gee, I'm really disappointed, I was looking forward to tonight, how do you plan to make it up to me? " ) then you need to REALLY let him go and not be a martyr about it. Instead, you kind of put him in a no win situation - and reinforced his "that's why I can't tell her anything" mentality.

Better get that WWBD tattoo

Ellie