WAW asked me to leave so I moved out for 3 weeks. The day I moved back in W left and hasn't been home for a week now, took D4 with her. I know she's hired a lawyer, but I have not been served yet.
I have left all our financial matters intact. Joint credit cards, bank accounts, etc. Since this began 4 months ago she has cleaned out checking twice and left me with the bounced checks. W continues to use credit cards like nothing has changed AND last week charged 5K to her lawyer. Today she pulled another $1000 from checking. She never OKs any of this with me prior.
W does not work. Drives a car she's never paid a dime for. Pays no bills, doesn't know what it means to balance a household budget and save for the future. I believe she is staying with friends right now.
I know she thinks I'm going to make this all about the money, she is very insecure about it and one of the most common things we fought about in the past. My 180 has been to say NOTHING about money so far, I haven't even hinted that I saw the lawyer charged on the card.
So here's my question: Am I just being stupid? Do I need to shut down everything joint and cut off all access to my paycheck? I feel like as soon as I do this she will go absolutely ballistic with the lawyer. As it stands now, she will not even discuss even the simplest matters with me at all so there is little hope of resolving any $$$ questions between the two of us.
Do I protect our assets and my (or our) future from her flailing about OR do I sit back and keep taking it on the chin?
