@chasing - thanks, it's a horrible process, but I'm starting to do better! You're right, I still do some stuff to measure how W reacts, but it is becoming less and less. It helps to know that she's very much attracted to me, and said she likes me, and that's just me being me.
@AS - sigh, I know. The problem is that W and I aren't working toward the same goal. She wants D, at least to some degree, and I don't. Until we're working toward the same goal, all that stuff I say like that is just going to force her to be defensive.
It sorta drives me crazy because Sunday night, I'm like "Fine. Divorce it is." I didn't speak to W when we went to court on Monday, and said nothing to her until Wednesday when SHE texts me, "Hey, we can get that divorce delay; maybe you're right and I should take more time to think about it." BLARGH! I can't win! Of course, hind sight being 20/20, I should've just said, "Ok." and said nothing else.
