AS, you really do have some uncanny insight into these difficult times. You appear to be able to not only handle your sitch with such knowledge and bravado but, providing insight towards others is something that I know first hand really helps. Yes, your anniversary thing with wife had to be hard. And yet, you put it in perspective and moved beyond it.
I guess that is the key, moving beyond what we cannot control.
W still hasn't delivered the D papers she said she was going to bring last week. I did wonder if she would bring them by on our anniversary, wouldn't that have been a party, LOL!
It would LOL. Actually when I got BD from my H he told that he had planned to hand me D papers for our anniversary which was just over a week after BD. 10 months later he still hasn't filed.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
Nothing better then receiving positive validation from your kids.
That feeling goes right to your heart
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
I just wanted to throw in my two cents here because every since BD I have been hyper-aware of marriage and divorce in the media and my community. It seems to me that our culture is almost pushing divorce and making it a trendy thing to do. I get sick at hearing all the articles about how it is such a square thing to stay with the same person your whole life and look how much you are missing out on things etc....I mentioned this to my W and she flipped out...she always wants this to be about her and make her special.... sorry did not mean to hijack your thread but I just thought I would throw that out there...if you can stomach the latest article about it is in GQ....but it is every where. Also how kids from divorced families are fine after a year....
AS, I wanted to stop by to say thank you for posting on my thread and for being there with support and advice throughout my long journey. I caught up w your sitch and it seems you continue being strong and a role model for your children.
I agree w 7720 that the media plays a huge role in the way young people (and not-so-young people) view D. I also think people's upbringing has a lot to do with this distorted view that D is what you do when things in the R don't go your way 100% or when you feel "something is missing" even if you don't know what that something is. In Joe's case, he grew up w shared custody and to him, D was a readily available option.
I agree with tori that what a person knows and hears from society makes D an okay option. My W's dad divorced her mom a year before he died, and she feels akin to him. Hopefully this doesn't rub off too much on our kids...
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
