What a relief, Betsey. Sounds like a great night all the way around. Nice 180 on the car. I will have to follow your lead on this one. My H owns 2 classic cars, and they have always been a problem with me. I know for a fact that he would LOVE for me to take an interest in them. Your presents to him sound wonderful. Didn't know you had solved that dilemma with such creativity.
Go you, Betsey! Bet that hug last night felt great...
No, D9 did not confront her dad about his friendship with Pam... nor did he address the topic with her (before or after dinner). When he was taking D6 to the bathroom in the restaurant, I quickly asked D9 about this.
She said she knew that Pam was not a potential girlfriend but that she really dislikes her anyway, and asked if I minded if she punches her in the face?
I didn't visibly react (but I had to inwardly smile at her jealousy for me) but asked her why she doesn't like Pam? She shrugged her shoulders and said, "I don't know. She irritates me and I don't like her."
I've never met her, so I couldn't comment on this.
I saw that D9 had left her dad a note by the computer last night (knowing he logs in when he arrives in the morning) that said, "Dad, happy birthday. Can I punch Pam in the face?"
Needless to say, I found it before he did and threw it away...
I had no idea she felt that way about her, but I'm going to take a guess now and say that maybe Pam is sending off vibes of being interested in Mr. W.?
I really don't want to devote any more time or energy to this discussion because if I put fuel in that tank, it's going to keep on going. I'm officially dropping out of the Mr. Wonderful-Pam saga.
Ocean journaling this morning:
He walked in on time and headed into the bathroom looking for me. I scared him because I was in the closet (I have a bit of my dad in me, and this is sort of fun to do). I pulled the morning version of Bob and said Happy Birthday!
He smiled a real smile and thanked me, when he saw D6 pop out of the covers. They had a mutual admiration minute and he walked downstairs to the computer.
I walked down and he asked me if I would proofread a letter for the golf tournament if he sent it to me at work. (I got it, and it sounds a little too selfish, so I need to reword some things for clarification...we're asking them to be a major donor and food host, and it's too "me" oriented for my liking. But then again, isn't his entire MLC life selfish?)
He then announced to me that another friend gave him the name of an RV repair shop that is close to his office. I think he's wanting to get the brakes done on the mobile homeless shelter? I said it sounded a lot better than driving it across town and he agreed.
I was lugging the recycle bins to the curb and just getting ready to leave when I saw him standing in the garage, smiling and holding my commuter coffee mug. As I got closer he said, "I know that you'd really miss this, so I brought it out to you. Have a really nice day."
I smiled back at him and thanked him for bringing it out to me--because I wouldn't have survived without it! Oh, and I told him to have a birthday kind of day today and he grinned back at me.
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Wow, the nice guy I married is back for a guest appearance! It's really nice to see him again. I hope Bob can help him work through this Withdrawal stage of his MLC...
So, shark and fish friends, shall we just keep swimming?
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Well of course we shall!! We haven’t anything else to do BUT keep swimming!
Isn’t funny how the strangest things come into our book of knowledge? Here we were, using Bob to boost the moral and PMA of the fellow DBers on the board and it turns out to be the key in resurrecting our husbands (husbands, not ALIENS!!). Funny, but it makes you really believe that everything happens for a reason and that things do come full circle.
Mr. W is beginning to act, dare I say it out loud, that his love tank is beginning to fill. Good move on intercepting the note on poor Pam’s nose – that may have sent his love tank for quick spill. But I really do think that he’s starting to see the light now. He’s acting a thousand times better…now they need to add a sixth love language. The Bob Barker one!
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
Mer--I believe that you should write your own tale about how Bob Barker has helped you as well... maybe even writing to Michele and letting her know how our favorite game show host has assisted us.
I'll have to give you formal credit here for becoming the BB equivalent of Bob. Yes, maybe it started out as a means to boost morale here, but really the credit has to go to you for enacting this at home and monitoring the results.
I only had to follow your lead after it worked so well for you and Mr. Ray.
I had no idea that D9 had such a vindictive streak... it's good to know. My girls are both Pisces, and these little fish are very feisty and territorial. Nobody is going to replace me without a fight from them.
And I hope nobody does. I will say it makes me glad it wasn't me who walked out, with a potential OM waiting in the wings. Dare I say she would feel compelled to take him on?
Plus this would have put Mr. Wonderful in the position of being a saint or at the least, a martyr. Frankly, I think someone else could have used the cross for wood and put it to better use...
Whew! Something to be very grateful for today.
Hud--I understand your thoughts on the feeding frenzy hangover. They really are more unpleasant than they're worth, and I wish you had been able to avoid it.
So I'll just give you another hug and wish you a good day. You've still got your best girl (D3), who thinks you walk on water. Awesome!
Time to get back to work. An emergency assignment just landed in my lap and I'm slightly pissed... as usual, it's a last minute thing.
Ciao for now and we'll ALL keep swimming to the tune of Bob Barker...
Bets
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Hey, do you guys think Bob would be flattered knowing that women all across America are using him as a model of how to be a great wife? How could he be anything but... I think I am going to have to stop reading these threads at work, though. I can't stop laughing - Betsey with antlers, D9's to-the-point birthday note, Betsey in the closet - you guys sound like a really fun family. It osunds like he is remembering the Betsey that's vivacious and beautiful, full of fun and most importantly, full of love for him. BOB RULES!!!! Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
Of course Bob would be flattered! He didn't do his stage ladies for nothing! I hope he doesn't sue us like he got sued for doing one of them on the side...
Myrrh, I'm glad that I make you laugh. I really do work at that, so I'm happy knowing it makes you giggle.
Last summer (after our mobile homeless shelter was vandalized), Mr. Wonderful seemed really irritated that I found our lives funny. Back then I didn't mind the backslides as much, and I commented "YOU FELL IN LOVE WITH THAT PERSON, MR. WONDERFUL..." He looked at me then and said sadly, "Please don't remind me, because I don't want to think about it."
I remember commenting back at him, "Well, I'm probably the most exciting girl you're ever going to meet. Why not agree to fall back in love with me?"
He wasn't at all thrilled with my follow up, and I decided to leave it alone.
But it IS true! As D9 would say, he wouldn't know funny if it reached out and tickled him...
Another comment before I get cracking here...
Last night at dinner, D9 took D6 to the bathroom for a few minutes, so he asked me some golf tournament questions. He sighed and said, "Organizing this could almost be a full time job if I let it."
I just sat there and smiled.
He looked at me, and I know he wanted me to pity him--we all know that it isn't going to happen. He said, "Tell me that you didn't devote this much time and energy into the past 4 tournaments."
I said, "Yep, I did. They were all labors of love, and I'm more than happy to help you when and where I can."
He smiled weakly and said, "Thanks. I'm going to need it."
Upward and onward. And my sincere gratitude for Bob Barker, his alternative staff on this BB--particularly in the form of a ball of energy named Meredith--and his unfailing optimism in life.
And if he's miserably depressed and a mean son-of-a-witch, he does a fabulous job of acting AS IF. I love him!
Bets
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey- I love the fact that life is like game of leapfrog - Mer keeps you going, you reach out and keep me (and countless other people) going, I'm trying to start reaching out to others. The laughing we do here, the sharing, the venting, the tears. It's way more important to me keeping going thatn I realize sometime. (((((Betsey))))) Thanks for being you, Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
