Struggling!

[sbrass]

I don't think ssmguy's the husband of the gay wife. That's me, and I've been quiet for a while here. A brief update:
Dear friends, first, a real heart-felt thank you for your support, your questions, your ideas.
Then my wife lesbian has clearly stated that she wants to stay and try to make our relationship work, including physical intimacy. We've just had a good session with our therapist together, and we're starting on massages... renewing our physical contact. We're committed to a new start, while both saying we cannot guarantee anything in the long-term. Not guarantee. Try to work for, yes. Commit to that, without any secrets. As my wife says, she may still meet the love of her life; and then she says to me, you too could meet a new love who could give you what I cannot. So modest and measured optimism.
Thank you again: you/we are a powerful virtual community.