Well, I did a poor job of "just that" today. She was having another bad day, and I just hit my tipping point, I guess. I became angry, which wasn't a big deal because I was at a work function and busy most of the evening (so not physically around her), but I did go to the house to tuck the kids in and she could tell I wasn't happy. I refused a hug. She called me after I left and asked if something she said/texted "offended" me, and I said that it didn't at first, but it was now bothering me and I held firm that I didn't want to talk about it. She apologized to me over the phone, then texted me a few clarifying things. I didn't respond.
I don't like being in the position where I have valid feelings and having those valid feelings feels like it gets in the way of the end result I want. I'm mostly better now, but it took awhile. I felt both tired of her playing the victim of her own decisions and also insulted.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
