LJC, we are both very close to the same timeframe. My W did the bomb drop on the 24th Oct 12, and moved out on the 5th Dec 12. So I know where you are at. I also so much want to temp check, but the reality is, I am not going to get an answer. I have gotten close (not yet there) to accepting the W has no intention of talking to me at this stage. Like AS said, we cycle, we go through times of it's over, to, maybe we can work something out. The time frame changes: days, weeks and months. I also feel that we the LBS do improve ourselves at a better and faster rate than the WAS does. Does all this stuff help? Most of the times, no it doesn't. It doesn't stop me from being upset she left, or that she walked away without me knowing how much pain she was in. What is has done though, is make me think about how difficult it would be to have her come back at this stage of our sitch. I am growning, now I have to let my W grow. We may come back together down the track, but I cannot force her to move any faster than what she wants to do. My view, and I will probably ask the same question on my topic in a few weeks, but, I think you should not contact her at all about your feelings. If you are lucky enough to have conversations with her (unlike me) then validate, validate and validate more.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
