I have lived in fear for the past 7 years that this would happen again. I have done everything I can to make sure he is happy at home, help him build his business, etc. Yet, he seems to be repeating the same pattern. I can't say that I am totally shocked at what is happening now, but I did everything I could think to avoid it.
Hello 2T2M- I know the fear you are talking about. I have been at this about the same amount of time you have except my H is now my XH. He left 6 1/2 years ago, came back 3 years ago, left again 1 1/2 years ago and now he wants back into my life again. There is a part of me that wants to give him another chance but I keep thinking now fool me once, shame on you - fool me twice, shame on me. When he came back the previous time, it started out ok but eventually I felt like everything was on his terms and I was alone even when we were still together. I was afraid he might leave again but kept thinking things would get better. When he walked out the door, I was done...and now he's back again...I think! So, I'm currently in the process of trying to figure out if he is now more like the man I married or still the alien. Even if he proves himself to be more like the old H, I'm sure I will struggle with trust issues.
If your H having a new MLC, a continuation of the past MLC or just bad character, does it change anything? It sounds like you are doing the right thing by protecting yourself, financially and emotionally. Now just focus on yourself and see what happens. I wish you much strength and lots of luck.
