Well, for better or worse, below is an example of the dynamic I've got going on with my W.
W: So, I was thinking of bringing some food over to your place so we can eat as a family.
M: Sounds great! See ya then.
W: Oh, I like the plan you've come up for separating the finances.
M: Yeah, I'm happy with it too. It makes the most sense for us right now.
W: So, we'll just talk to the L at our meeting to finalize everything?
M: Sounds great honey!
W: OK, bye.
Of course, I'm exaggerating just a smidge, but sometimes I wonder if I'm even DBing anymore. I'm just so fine with life going in whatever direction it goes and have basically tucked away my M in a little box somewhere. I'm so focused on trying to loving everyone in my life unconditionally (including W) D doesn't seem to be a big deal anymore. There's good and bad mixed in there... It will be interesting to see where it all leads.
I will admit sometimes I feel this rage inside of "how could she do this to me and our family!?!?" and then I just take a step back and say to the little boy "get in the back seat buddy."
Thoughts?
ETC
"Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy