Journalling:

Some personal short-term goals/actions on here that I hope to keep up:

-more eye contact, flirting, teasing, slowly become more affectionate
-VALIDATE, VALIDATE, VALIDATE. stop being so defensive in an attempt to 'win' an argument, truly hear what he has to say, his legitimate complaints
-stand up for myself and my needs/wants in order for my needs to be fulfilled more often, so that my ideas are not being shut down
-express my desire to be able to do things that make me feel happy, and more fulfilled, not letting his negativity drag me down
-exerting my independence
-no nagging or complaining
-being more independent, calling on him for help less often
-talking in a nicer tone of voice
-keeping things light around the house
-not interfering with how he is handling the kids

M: 8 yrs T:14
Twins:7 S:5
BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013
Mar/Apr/May: MC
June: "living in limbo"
Sept 12: H moves out
Oct 20: reconciling
Jan-Feb 2014:MC
Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.