What I wanted to say: -Do what you need to do. I'm not your mom. -At someone's beck and call? Better get running! -Why did you call to tell me? Do you think I care? <--this one scares me because it feels like apathy, instead of hate, is setting in... -You should say you'll be late coming to MY house, because it's definitely not a home.
Lots of unpleasant emotions bubbling up there. I hear anger, frustration and resentment. That tells me your detachment is not there yet. I'm glad you resisted saying those things to your H, but he will sense the emotions behind them. You need to be showing him detachment, independence and PMA instead.
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I really feel like I am starting to just not care about him at all because he is really not the person I want right now.
Many of us go through a phase where we convince ourselves that we're detached and don't care anymore. But the way to tell if you really are detached is this- no matter what your H says or does, are you able to maintain your PMA without even thinking about it? IE, nothing he says or does really affects you? I'm not sure it's even possible to detach when you're under the same roof, I know I never could have.
