I introduced my sitch over on the newbie forum, but thought I would come over here since this is the proper place for help with my problem. I feel like I am living with a spiteful, venomous 39 year old alien that is rejecting me and stomping on me at every turn. She is now validating herself and by spending every waking hour posting on Facebook and Instagram. I swear its like she's in High School again. Its like she's trying to win a popularity contest or running for homecoming court.
I have already confirmed 2 online EA's with HS friends that included texting, calls, messaging and trading of sexual pictures. I am pretty confident that there have been and continue to be more.
She is completely withdrawn, lost 30 pounds, coloring her hair, doing absolutely no housework or anything else of value. If she wasn't the one responsible for taking our 2 boys to school every day, I think she wouldn't be doing that.
I have been trying to GAL and act "as if", but I am physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted on a daily basis. Last night, after a 16 hour workday, I came home and had to immediately take out the trash, clean the laundry room floor, and feed all the animals. This is after washing all the dishes and all the dirty clothes in the house the night before. I made mention that I was going to make a chore list for the boys because I "needed some help." She smugly responded saying, "Its hard doing it all by yourself, isn't it?" This was while she was in bed with her phone in her hand texting or Facebooking. I simply walked away to avoid the fight. She even tried to draw me back into the fight with a couple of more statements as a walked downstairs.
I am reading DB and 2 of Jim Conway's books. I'm also running and trying to improve my relationship with my children. Anyone with any great advice would be appreciated.
Both 40 T-22 M-18 S13 S11
Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13 EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13 EA #2-9/13/13
