Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part V)

[AnotherStander]

After I posted yesterday morning I was reading some other threads and someone mentioned their anniversary, I looked at the calendar and wow, it was my anniversary too! Or would have been. We haven't lived together or behaved like a married couple for over a year, so the fact that we've been "married" 21 years is more of a paper technicality than actuality. We were really "married" a little less than 20 years, the rest (since BD) has been something other than marriage. I didn't expect W to say anything about the anniversary, but I also didn't want to have her do something nice like bring cookies over and I have nothing. So I bought a flower arrangement just in case and put it in the fridge. She came by around 7 pm to pick up S10, chatted a while and left without saying a word about the anniversary. I doubt she forgot, she's always had an amazing memory for dates. I didn't expect her to say anything, but I have to admit it did sting that she didn't. I wasn't crying in my pillow or anything, but it was disappointing.

W still hasn't delivered the D papers she said she was going to bring last week. I did wonder if she would bring them by on our anniversary, wouldn't that have been a party, LOL!

You are so great with your kids and responses with your wife. I enjoy reading your updates, truly inspirational.

Some have been telling me that me & my W behaviors have reversed too! I was short tempered, now she is & yells at the kids quite often. Many other examples but im sure most WAW behaviors are similar.

You seem to be in a good place in life, Your kids are very fortunate to have a father like you.

Thank you, that's very kind! That's interesting that you've observed something similar in your sitch. The LBS's do tend to change a lot after BD and doing DB'ing and soul-searching. It's strange that the WAS often goes the opposite direction though. Maybe it's a manifestation of their unhappiness with their "new and improved" life? I don't know.

That quote brought tears to my eyes...

Me too! I wish the story had talked more about the woman, but all it said was that she was a retired professor. The story was really about Diana Nyad, the woman that just swam from Cuba to Florida. She met the lady at a conference, saw the number tattooed on her arm and asked about it.

As always AS, thank you for sharing. I gain a lot from reading your posts. My h has filed. wanted to discuss how I wanted to receive petition. I have tests next week so it will probably be after that. I too am in TX. don't like the laws here. We've been togather 25+ years.
I have started a journal of all the great and inspiriational quotes I hear. I will add that.

Thank you, glad to hear I'm helping I think it's unfortunate that TX just has a 60 day wait, hopefully they'll change that to a year like many other states have. And the attitude about alimony here is a little odd too.