You know, I've been reading the Mars/Venus books and over and over he emphasizes that men need to be appreciated and validated in order to feel loved, and in order to give to the relationship. I find that the more I appreciate my H, and treat him as if he is the wonderful man he can be sometimes, the more he starts to resemble that man. Now, if I could only remember that on the phone and in person. My mom has always been the provider and protector in our home, too, so it's tough for me not to try and take that on. It's all about ACCEPTANCE, VALIDATION, and LETTING GO of control. I keep repeating that to myself. Here's to light-bulb moments... Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
