Today seems to be one of clarity and what Oprah would call 'light bulb moments'. While my mother would faint on the spot if she read what I am about to write...I have to explore this.
Quote: Part of building him up as his role of protector and head of the household (read: me understanding that gender roles have some value and sense in world order) is allowing him to feel cherished and esteemed. I'm happy to do that for him now.
I have always been the one to assume these roles. In the household that I was raised in, my own mother held the role of provider, protector and prosecutor. My dad got to help sometimes. I wonder if, out of what is natural to me, I have stuffed H into the role of 'helping sometimes' while I steamrolled my way through and did things my way, the 'right way'. Hmmm...
I believe I just hijacked your thread! What I was originally coming here to write was a big GO YOU!! !
You are becoming very natural in your Bob Barker role…and Mr. W is responding to it. He does want to be around you more. How easy would it have been to leave you out there shoveling away while he sat inside and ate his dinner without any fear of being eaten himself? He chose to approach you and ask you in. That, is one hell of a positive! GO YOU!!!
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
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