Sharks need love too (not all bite)

[Underdog]

Ellie,

I was only postulating that there might be a secondary LL in Words, but I still believe his is Acts of Service.

I've been mulling this over because I remember him asking me why I never brought him coffee while he was shaving in the morning? Why I never offered to shovel snow or do yard work?

Mr. W. is not QT at all... that's D9. If he has a close second LL, it's words of affirmation.

Anyway, someone NEEDED to shovel because I couldn't get up the driveway... that person was me by default. I wasn't angry about having to do it (actually the total opposite because it was pretty outside and still snowing lightly).

I was just wishing he would actually give me some words of affirmation, because I hardly ever receive them. But when he loads the chemicals in the hot tub that the girls and I hardly ever use, I'm expected to gush all over him...

I really don't mind about the math. My minor is in math but Mr. W. has his degree in electrical engineering and uses complex mathematical formulas in his daily life (I have mentioned before that it's been a standing joke between us that he's the only person I know who uses differential equations in life).

Part of building him up as his role of protector and head of the household (read: me understanding that gender roles have some value and sense in world order) is allowing him to feel cherished and esteemed. I'm happy to do that for him now.

And D9 can deal with that...