I have not accepted it. But I don't control her. And if you suggest that being outraged and angry is the appropriate response. Been there, done that, and that doesn't work. Like I've said, we keep our differences on this matter to just this matter.

For example, some people might suggest that I get anal retentive and refuse to do other things and escalate the tension. Doesn't work, and makes everything else worse.

And the last thing in the world that I want is someone who has sex because they feel threatened. No thanks.

I do understand at this point that when you are plain not interested in sex at all, it's no simple matter to regain that desire simply by "working on it" or being "willing to work on it".

I don't think her behavior is callous because she is so giving in so many other ways. This is a very difficult area for her.