GTO, I understand the feeling about making the final decision. I’m kind of in the same boat on this.

Being alone after a long R is not for everyone. Only you can decide when you are ready for another R.

Your H feels that you are pulling away, this why he is concerned. He also probably knows that you will not be alone for a long time.

M:50
H:52
S28 (my S from previous marriage)
M:17 + 3
BD: 06/12
S: 06/12 - H works in another state