Who is this woman & what has she done with my wife

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THX, I love your writing style. I could totally relate to so much of what you've written and I'm at a similar place to you in my own journey. This point in your last post really stuck with me:

I am not planning on dating anyone immediately, but thinking about the concept takes the focus off of W, and allows me to think about some possible scenarios within my own future.

I personally think this is totally healthy and only to be expected. Being open to moving forward with or without your W automatically assumes that you're going to think about possible scenarios of you getting together with another woman. When I get really caught in a tangle mentally about the real possibility of a future without my W, I have pictured myself happy in the long run with someone else or alone. I think the big goal here is for you to work out different possibilities in your mind and be at peace with whichever way they go. This way your happiness will not be contingent upon any one possibility. I think that's really the point of detachment.

With all of that said, take this time to really work on you without a woman in your life. Does that mean you can't have women friends? Of course not. Sparking up some new FRIENDSHIPS might do you some good, but really work on yourself so the new you is in a good position for a new relationship with your W or someone else.

ETC