There's only so much you can do. It's not a given that a perfect husband will guarantee that a wife will want sex. And at some point, bending over backwards with no results can also lead to resentment. So I do the best to make it a good relationship without an expectation of sex. And no sex has resulted. That's where I am now.
What bothers me about your story is that you say you've done the work to meet your wife's needs and to be the best husband you can be, but your wife dismisses your need for sex as not important, and you seem to have convinced yourself this is okay because of her rationalizations and justifications.
You don't have to buy into her explanations -- the fact that you want sex and she married you is enough to make her behavior problematic.
Why have you accepted this? Why aren't you outraged by her callous behavior?
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
