Part of coming on here and venting is that it provides you a safe place to open up with your most angry and bitter emotions. And everyone here has felt those at one point or another. I hope it was cathartic for you and encourage you to use this as an outlet.
But, as far as going out into the dating scene, from what you wrote I think you know the answer to this. Not only would this be unfair to the woman (even if you disclose it) and add unneeded complexity to your life, but it would keep you from working on you. As important, you have two kids that need your focus as well so you can all get through this. They were riding in the back seat of your Life car when your W decided to jump out (nice metaphor, btw) and they are still in the car with you. Would their dad going out trolling for women that are willing to be with him despite knowing he is an emotional mess help or hurt them dealing with what they are dealing with? Or, do they need their dad to be the one who is doing the right things and moving forward with a clear head? Again, from what you have written, you seem like a good man who knows the answer.
CB
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
