@AS - I knew I messed up with that line, so at the end, when she said "Fine", my only goal was to say as little as possible, and STFU. I wasn't thinking about validating or anything! But that's tough for me. If she says "I'm nervous" - I sort of validated by saying "It is hard." But if she says, "I don't know if I can do anything different" - do I ask what seems to be so overwhelming? Or what is she afraid of? Or why does she feel that way? Not sure how to lead that into her expressing feelings without pushing...
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Also, W invited me over for coffee again tomorrow. Not sure if she plans on walking around in her underwear like last time. I actually told her that I appreciated the invite, but with the divorce kicking off and her considering the stay maybe we should just take some more time to clear our heads. She responded saying, "It's OK, you can come over for coffee; I'll just be hanging out drinking some anyway."
This is where I'm unfortunately at a loss. She wants a 90-day stay/continuance, she's invited me over for the second time in a week, and the last Friday was very good. It was 2 hours of fun, chit-chat, etc, and then I left with her giving me a hug.
So, do I go, and avoid R talks at ALL costs? Or just say, "Hey, I need some time to figure some things out. How about next week?"
But that's tough for me. If she says "I'm nervous" - I sort of validated by saying "It is hard." But if she says, "I don't know if I can do anything different" - do I ask what seems to be so overwhelming? Or what is she afraid of? Or why does she feel that way? Not sure how to lead that into her expressing feelings without pushing...
