Just did a little test on H. Today is SS11's bday and H has been complaining all week that our counseling appointment (that he scheduled) is today, which will keep them from doing something fun.
I kept saying, "reschedule or cancel it" and he did neither.
So this morning I was asking the their plans for today and he said again, "well, I wish we didn't have counseling, because then we could plan something fun" and I said, "ok, let me cancel the appointment" and he said, "no, no, no, now it's too late. Don't cancel."