Thanks RH, I pretty much feel the same way. It is only money, and it won't put us in the poor house even if we do split up.
My issue right now is the manner that she is handling this. I don't want to reward poor behavior because then I'll continue to get the same.
This morning:
I enter the room and offer a cheerful "Good morning". After a brief pause, she replies "Don't think that saying good morning fixes everything". She walked out of the room as she said this. I refused to speak across rooms, or chase her down, so that was the end of the conversation. When we met up a few minutes later, I said "I know we need to work this out, but we can still be civil in the mean time."
Her reply: "Whatever you say".
Then she snuck off to work in my car without saying a word. I was planning to ride my bike to work so it didn't matter to me, plus I could have driven her car if I wanted. She obviously is making some kind of a rebellious statement by doing this.
How should I respond? Again, I don't want to reward this passive aggressive(?) behavior.
If she would talk about this like an adult I'd give her anything.
Gosh I still love my girl!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
