know I am supposed to detach. on the one hand, think I will stand.
You can stand and still be detached. Detached just means you've removed yourself from H's roller coaster and are living your own life and letting him live his. You can do that while still standing.
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on the other, I am tired of all the bs. I get nothing from h. I get no appreciation for all I do for our children. I am only the hired help. h does not care that I feel overwhelmed. I ask myself why should I want this man. I don't like what he has become.
I totally understand! It's hard to go from feeling loved and admired before BD, to practically overnight being dirt under their feet- no compliments, no ILY, no appreciation. All I can tell you is you have to live for YOU and the kids, not for your H. You have to accept that you will get no emotional or physical support from him. You have to drop all expectations. Do things for yourself to find your PMA!
