ToMrBond,25yearsmic,big bruce,Lostinscared,crimson

[Brahmin]

Yes, she texted me the other day saying what's in her heart.she said she was shocked and did not want thing to go this way. I went to her and knocked her door she didnot open. I waited and went back 2nd time , texted her that I love her and want a happy family back.

Did you interpret Her Behavior, (not some vague wording) to mean that she wants to be a "happy" family with you?

I think she's suprised that things got heavy perhaps...but MAYBE you are projecting your wants onto her.

You assume things b/c you want to believe those things.

You are right

And you are pressing her for more than she's ready. Even when there is progress, you jump the gun.

I did want to save the marriage

She may well be confused, and maybe it's b/c you made changes that cause her to second guess her choice to leave (which is the best you can hope for at this point in time)

but she's clearly not ready to reconcile and "be a happy family".

Can you describe when you THREE were happy together? Big bruce said once the baby came his wife was "obsessed" with the baby and so bruce detached from her "bad

We were happy when we moved to a new town, 2 yrs ago, we both had jobs , we just bought a new house. We were sharing finances, we took trips out of town, I work over night calls, shealso worked overnight calls. We shared stuff like husband and wife. Its the arguments and disagreements that go ballistic. Small things, I was planning to start my own business, which I think her mom did not approve. She had hard time teloing me not to do that. That was the huge fight, when she said you need to leave my house. She wanted to go to brazil with her mom. I said we will plan it and time it. She takes it as diapproval and goes on a tangent saying, u don't like my mom.

One thing I have to admit , I did not have a good relation to he best friend, emotional support and confidente, her mom. It's like I was competing with her on any decision, to name her mom suggested her to seperate and see how things will turn out, now she is one who is supporting her divorce. Her mom had been disrespectful many times to me. I choose to not make her as big but reality is she has huge influence on her.

They grew up taking vacations 3-4/ yrs all life, no savings just live in the moment kind of, I respect that life style. We did take long trips with in our means.

Since you named me in the thread title as if I know you, but I don't recall this "Brahim" name, & you chose to post on Big Bruce's thread (& you sound so much like Big Bruce) I can only assume that you are him

OR you are not and therefore I can only go on these few posts here.

Please provide more info AND at least try to answer the questions I ask or there's no reason for me to be here. No offense, but it's just reality.

Thanks for reading my post , I think she has no intentions coming back. I have to let her go