I'm sorry WH. Sounds like another day in paradise.
Yuck.
Your D reminds me of my own. Willing to fight to the death on just about anything--especially when she has to have resentment towards your H. My youngest has Asperger's and you simply cannot allow her to start boiling for too long or she will go for hours.
It must be very hard to navigate being a mom and tolerating his insanity.
Heather
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