Last thread linked above. Onward we go with the craziness...
So in my last thread I explained all the ugliness that happened between D and H this morning. Tonight I asked S what happened after I left this morning. He told me D still refused to get dressed and they didn't make it to the bus. H had to take them to school and kept yelling at the kids about how mad he was because he was going to be an hour late for work.
I asked S if these arguments between H and D happen often and he said yes. I asked if they happen when I am not with them or not home and again he said yes.
Tonight I get home about 7:00. H and kids were not home. They got home about 8:00 or so. H got D in the bath at 8:15. She ran in my room and wants me. I kiss her and tell her to get into the bath. D is happy and content until H asks her to wash her hair. She argues with him about not washing her hair and H starts yelling at her. She starts calling out for me and i don't respond. D starts screaming and yelling and H is yelling back. She doesn't get out of the shower until 9:00.
H confronts me later in front of the kids and tells me this wouldn't happen if I didn't put the kid's down an hour after he does. I told him I put them down at the same time you do. He said he's been trying to get them to bed earlier. I said no you haven't. He said I kept them out too late last night. I said D was asleep by 9:20. He said "I walked in there after 10 and she was still awake." I said you walked in at 9:50 and she was fast asleep. I was in there too. At 9:30 I had S come upstairs. At 10:00 S was in bed. He said he has been trying to get D asleep by 9:00. I told him that wasn't true. He said "it doesnt matter because you are not doing it. Its not happening!!!" I said doing what? He said getting them to bed. I said I don't know why you are criticizing me for getting them to bed at the same time you are. He said they need to go to bed earlier and it isn't happening. I said well it's not happening with you either, H. He insisted he was getting the kid's to bed earlier. I said you are not getting them to bed any earlier than I am. He just walked away and told me that he wasn't arguing with me and I just wasn't doing it. I told him it was hypocritical of him to criticize me for not putting her to bed at a certain time when he wasn't getting her to bed at that time either.
Also said to D that she had homework to do after her bath. Of course the homework did not happen. D got in bed at 9:30. She was asleep shortly after.
I tend to think perhaps he is creating this drama with the kids to blame me to say I am still creating drama in the house.
I am tired of him getting away with his deplorable behavior and I am expected to "facilitate" his relationship with the kids and "do as he says, not as he does". What does it take for the system to see this guy for what he really is? A total control freak.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
