Wow, I'm so sorry to hear of the deep pain you are in THX.
Originally Posted By: THX-1138
Proposal: Should I seek comfort in the arms of another? No. Or no? Why not?
Because you realize this would be nothing but a temporary diversion. It would only end up adding more complexity to your already painful sitch.
You must find lasting happiness and contentment on your own before you can have it with another partner.
You can attend a D support group for help though. Just talking with others going through the same mess can help a lot. Kinda like here.
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What happens when one party decides to void her half of the contract? Decides unilaterally, to stop loving, to stop cherishing, to refuse to honor her husband? She seeks to legally end the marital agreement, her contract, and her love for her husband.
The other party has to decide how they are going to respond to that. You can drop the rope and step way back to allow her crises to play out, and deal with all the pain that will entail, or start the D process and deal with all the pain that'll entail. I know, it sux that there is no easy button for this crap.
Either way, you have to start building your new life without her.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
