Thanks for your feedback AS. The boys don't live with the W. When I move back, myself and the boys will be almost 1000km away from the W. I will tell them I am coming back to be with them. Nothing about the W will be mentioned. Yes, I am hoping to see them more. Also hoping that they will in turn come and see me, rather than me doing all the chasing/ringing etc. But being young adult boys, I have to accept it may be the case that I am doing all the work. AS, as F mentioned, I haven't communicated, nor has she, with each other for a long time now. The boys are talked to every week and usually text/facebook every few days. I believe the W does the same.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Very much enjoying the N.U.T.S. book. Very easy to read and understand. Simple things to change ourselves.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
N.U.T.S book? What's that one? yet another one to add to my ever growing list of books lol. I need to have books that will work on me instead of my relationship, so this sounds perfect for me
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
No TTD180, this book is completely focused on us men. But yes, it is a working on me book, rather than a relationship one.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
well that's a bit sexist! lol. Isn't there an equivalent one for women?
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
I dread to think! I'm not sure what words they'll let me put on here so I'd better not
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Lol Well if you don't get banned for saying that JonF, then I'll say what I was going to say and that's B.O.O.B.S. lol
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
The boys don't live with the W. When I move back, myself and the boys will be almost 1000km away from the W.
Gotcha. In that case I agree with you and F, don't say anything to her about it. She's removed herself from the picture at this point unfortunately.
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Yes, I am hoping to see them more. Also hoping that they will in turn come and see me, rather than me doing all the chasing/ringing etc. But being young adult boys, I have to accept it may be the case that I am doing all the work.
I suspect that if you do the work initially, then eventually they will reciprocate. The 5 Love Languages techniques don't just work on spouses, it's the same kind of deal with kids. You fill their love tanks and they'll WANT to fill yours.
lol. I need to have books that will work on me instead of my relationship, so this sounds perfect for me