So it sounds to me like you are still waiting for her to make the decisions.

And if you don't know right now, then you are still not ready.

smile my .01

Me:49 H:47
S: 16
T:27 M:25
My EA: 2001
His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013
Separated, but H still in house

Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.