My take is that he is trying to egg you on, to see how much he can push your buttons, to have you react strongly and then he can continue to blame you for all things gone wrong. You did well validating then ignoring his mean texts.
I too, had to sit back and really examine what I was continuing to do after his first affair. It ain't easy, but I don't ever want to be there again, so the struggle now is worth it and will be in the end.
I personally wouldn't have picked him up (ok I probably woulda ), but I think you did great at detaching from him while he was trying to again push your buttons with drunk speak. He is in a very confused state right now and wants to see what is acceptable. Don't fall for it.
We all have those thoughts of when is enough, enough. It's part of the process of figuring out yourself and growing and changing. Might seem like an easier option, but really just introduces a whole new set of issues. You will know when you are ready, but give yourself a chance to grow and change first.
Good luck lbp.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
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), but I think you did great at detaching from him while he was trying to again push your buttons with drunk speak. He is in a very confused state right now and wants to see what is acceptable. Don't fall for it.