My son got involved with pot the summer before freshman year. He didn't come to me or us, we just found the evidence of it and he fed us lines until we couldn't ignore the fact that he was BSing.

My H unfortunately went from zero to suggesting military school He has one all picked out. He has no respect for anyone who does drugs and doesn't care why or what they might be feeling.

Not that your H is my H, but if my son came to me specifically I would keep his confidence so he could get help safely.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
__
Happiness is a warm puppy.