Don't count on H waking up because of this. You know him best. He may overreact, be punitive toward S, and make things worse. Your son confided to you because he was afraid of his dad's reaction, so in my opinion, you need to wait until S is ready to tell dad or he'll really regret confiding in you and the next time he's down he will not come to you.
I'm so glad he shared those feelings with you so you could help him learn how to cope. Also, there are places where you can get a good drug test so he can see how the results are going to appear on an employer's test. In my area it's a drug recovery center that offers counseling and treatment where I had my son tested. They do an in-house urine test but will send it out for more thorough analysis if you want to pay additional. That might give your S some peace of mind.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
