All the girls in the family were born on the same day Seriously though: You were all born on the same day? That's crazy cool.
Sorry to hear your mom is still declining. But then again, I'm glad you get more time with her even if she may be sleeping through much of it.
As for the other? I hear ya brother. And sometimes it [censored] to be right, doesn't it? But you are correct that your boys will do what they are going to do. No sense in wondering why she doesn't get it. If she did, this would have been a different conversation altogether, right?
You're still my brother of another mother in all of this Tad. I get similar stuff. I just had a head start and don't wonder why any longer. I don't marvel at the goofiness or the accusations or the rest. I just file the email away for a rainy day - i.e. a day when I am called to account for it because I may need it for a judge. Otherwise, I can't be bothered with any more than to read the BS and then file it away neatly. Too much time wasted agnozing, wondering, etc in the past. But rest assured Tad, I get the same as you do if not more. I've been accused, belittled, berated, and at times, amused all year by my ex. Seems we can't go more than 6 weeks without hearing from her. I do not engage in the conversations. It really makes things easier, but there are still things she does with the kids that are irksome. Similar to your scenario.
Don't engage in the emotional vomit, Tad. Takes a little practice, but you'll get there. Let her figure things out on her own. She'll tell herself and others, especially you, whatever it takes to make herself feel better about herself. One day she'll sing your praises to others, and it'll blow you away. Seen that happen too many times to count....
Spend the time with your mom. It's important and you don't need the other distractions. They don't deserve your time and effort.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
