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(((((((Mtnman)))))))

I too am sorry that you've gotten to this point. Know there are others that are going through the same sort of things out there and you're not alone. Our timelines line up almost exactly.

Not sure if you're at this point yet, but have you considered going through a mediator to try to keep things peaceful?

S9 broke down at bedtime and asked me why mommy didn't love me anymore. I told him only mommy could answer that. I didn't understand it either but was going to keep praying.

He then went to her and told her he wanted us to hug. She came toward me and said, we can still hug see! I stepped back and said, no we cannot hug anymore S9. He bawled and ran to his room.

I think you handled this well. I've taken a similar approach to relating to my kids over the matter and W thinks I've manipulated them into being against her. That honestly was never my intention and I think it's very important that kids have a good relationship with their mother no matter what. I now find myself defending her actions to the kids b/c I can't stand the thought of them hating her which some have expressed on occasion. I defend her and yet W thinks I have mental issues which she blames for all her problems. I've just come to the conclusion that W wants out no matter what I do. I pray you don't have to deal with this as it gets real messy.

Thanks for your words of advice and encouragement. I am considering asking her to not come here everyday like she has been. Knowing I would then not be able to go to her place to see the boys either.

Interesting. I keep thinking that it's good for the kids to see both parents as much as possible no matter what (as long as the visits are not full of conflict) so I've been pretty flexible with this sort of thing. W is pretty strict about the schedule and I hear the kids often complaining about what they call the "stupid schedule." Even with everything W has told me about how I'm such a monster, I basically just ignore it and figure she's on a journey so I can get along with or without her OK.

Going to keep fighting. Not giving up!!!!

Please keep posting. I think you're doing great!

ETC