Mtnman, IMO you handled this perfectly. For a terrible situation and so much pain to you all four, you were the rock and made the right decision by not hugging her. I also think deciding to limit her visitation, knowing it will limit some of yours, is also right on track.
I'm so sorry this has to be part of the journey. I know she is hurting painfully too, but you have to do what is best for you and the boys.
You're tucked in a special place in my heart today, and your story brings tears to my eyes.
(((((Mtnman)))))
rH
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway