Hi Luke... Thanks for the referral... I will check it out!

I am trying that "assertive walk" on for size, sure hope it fits.

You suggest trying it in other areas?... like where? I'm open to hearing you.

Ultimately, being assertive and not taking his disrespectful ways on me may make me look like a b*tch. I'm hoping I can do this without that label. After spending 20 years catering to his whims that eventually lead to the end of our R, I am hopeful that in doing this for ME, at the very least... I gain self-respect. Honestly, I do not want to be the "walked on carpet" anymore or take anymore further "punching bag" antics just to "keep the peace", it really got me no where in the end.

I hope you can do the same. One comment at a time!

Magic!

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)