Yesterday was not good. We had lunch and he had an issue with my outfit (H is extremely picky about modesty, and by the way, on average, i am not overly immodest in my choice of attire). Anyhow that led to hours of low blow txt comments. I tried to validate his anger but disengage from the content of the txts. I let him know that they were hurtful, rude, disrespectful (all in a positive boundary setting way for myself). Then i proceeded to take the kids out for tea and nicely invited him along (to which he said no). I had a nice time, did some shopping. And the txts did keep coming. I ignored them.
H then decided to have dinner out himself, said he was going for a drive and ended up drinking with friends. I wrote my 1st post , scoured this site a bit and went to bed. 1.49am, H txts me, there'd been an accident (his friend) and he needed me to get him cos he was too drunk. So like a good wife, im there to help him out of his mess. H then thanks me and starts to be affectionate. I reminded him that comments made today has been unacceptable and things are not just magically OK when he decides they are. We ride home and go to bed.
Did i do right? And more importantly, thoughts that ive been having , "when is enough, enough?"
