Separated 2 1/2 months; just trying to stay strong

[littleGTO]

Hi, pw. Sorry you have found yourself here, but here is the BEST place to be considering your situation.

LOTS of support here.

Patience is VERY difficult. YOu are now on a very long journey, where you will need more patience than you've ever needed for anything in your whole life. And, then some more.

I have been M 18 years/T21. I know what you are going through--we all do here to varying degrees as all of our sitch's are a little different.

Affairs are devastating for the LBS. Shock will take time to cycle through-- hurt- anger- betrayal- and acceptance. It will take LOADS of time too. And you will cycle back through ALL of these emotions, even when you thought you were "done" with that phase.

An affair is actually not the main problem in a M--- it is what caused the affair in the first place. Try to do 180's on things you know that may have contributed to unhappiness in the M. DId he have complaints? Are there things you know you can work on for your own personal growth?

Give him time and space. Don't pressure for any R talks. Focus on you and your kids, not him or what he's doing/not doing with OW.....believe me, I KNOW this is tough!! YOu can do it, though.

Come here often and post... there are a lot of wonderful people who have traveled a long way on their journeys and have amazing advice.. Good luck with yours.