Better to love or be loved?

[littleGTO]

willbewell,

Glad to hear you are handling the "filing" calmly, "AS IF!"

You are in a good place--focusing on you and your kids.

I am in the same boat as you will H having full access to the boys whenever he wants--cake-eating 101. The answer to your question is up to you...what do YOU want, both now and long term? It is easy to say keep things status quo, but you may need to think about what you want should the D process continue, on paper, anyway.

I am thinking about the exact same thing right now... It is a tough call. ALWAYS put the kids first, right, but what is best for the kids is that you are happy and content in your life too!