Mtnman, I'm sorry to hear this also. I really understand how much it hurts.
She is in denial for this part (D is normal). I'm so proud of your little boy telling her the way it is.
I believe my sons were both instrumental in helping my H see how devastating D would be. Lots of tears were shed on both sides.
Mtnman, you will be in my heart every day. You can be strong, I know! And remember last time she said something in this vein she was chatting with you (texting was it?) early the next day.
Be prepared for the difficulty that back-and-forth wears down on your emotions.
Let us know how you are as things progress. I was worried when I hadn't heard much from you lately.
Every day, Mtnman, every day I think of you and hope for the best.
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway