I hope so too. If not like I said I don't know what I'm going to do. This position is really good I won't be working nights and no weekends and I'll be off on all the holidays.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
Think positive He's been there for you before, unlike mine and notquitting's Hs.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Kel, sometimes the excuse of "having to be there for the boys" is all someone needs.
Have no expectations, but I believe this will start to cause friction with OW. Your job is to remain calm and beautiful. I would go in the direction of "I understand. If you can't continue I will look to hire someone in the morning etc etc. Can you continue until I get this sorted out?"
You have to believe this though and this scenario could occur, so be prepared for it.
If this does happen then I will have to give up this new position because I can not afford to hire someone to be there in the morning all the money I have from my paychecks and the money that H is giving me is just enough to cover the bills and rent and food I don't have any extra money for anything else.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
I agree with KP here Is there a relative that could help out if H can't help out? You do need a back up just in case!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I wish I could count on MIL but she said there us no way she will get up that early I would have to pick her up at 330am and bring her back to my house by 4am so I can get to work on time
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
Goodness. Then you will have to give up position but do it gracefully if it comes to it. This is where you are grace personified. I smell a turning point that will be to your advantage, but you can't give in to emotion or expectation.
Tread carefully, you have to live your life, basically, like H is no longer in it. Think of him as the hired help. You'd be upset, but you wouldn't get all crazy on someone who said "I'm sorry, this isn't working out and I'll stay until you can figure something..."
I agree KP You might not be able to rely on H anymore, I know I can't rely on my H. Hope it works out for you (((hugs)))
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
(Just posting about how im feeling today) I'm not doing good today; I'm missing my family being all together. Especially when my boys are with their dad when he has them and knowing that H is with OW every day. I so very much wish that we could be a family again. Its just so hard to see other families all together and Happy. I hope one day I will be able to be fully happy again.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
. I hope he keeps his word as well.