Better to love or be loved?

[willbwell]

Have a question... H gets to talk/see kids whenever convenient for h. he is getting his needs met by ow and seems to be enough for him to text kids. I know he wants no home responsibilties. I for the most part don't call or text. trying to stay focused on classes. h is in city where OW is. know I am supposed to detach and thought-stop. my question is...do I put a stop to this convenience for h and insist on a more regular kid schedule? I've made no demands of h.