I remind myself of two friends who have both been through WAS and are both happily married today.
Both Hs were WAS, and the Ws said the closer they got to the eventual reconciliation the worse it got. The Hs would get nastier and meaner, be more sullen, etc - because they were coming face to face with their own stupidity, recognizing what fools they were, seeing how bad they had to have looked to everyone around them; on TOP of the guilt for affairs, crappy state of their life, and of course, the coals heaped on them by loving Ws who fought through it and waited on them.
