Should I confront or not?

[Pudmuddle]

MrB, I love your perspective. This has helped me immensely to understand my H more. I did many of the things peace did.

Peace, I have come to learn that we really need to understand how we hurt our H's. And we hurt them bad. It doesn't mean you understand what he is doing now, but truly understand the hurt you have caused him to get him to where he is at now. What appears to be simple disregards for our H's, especially in physical areas has really beat then down. I know that when I get the chance with my H, (whenever that may be!) I will not apologize for my actions, but apologize for the hurt my actions caused. That is true understanding and forgiveness. MrB has given you some great insight here, try to sit back and absorb when you are in a calmer state of mind. Hang in there. I'm with you!