2.25 Years, Moving Forward

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My pleasure JP! Ad, he's not recognizably out of the norm unless you get to know him quite well. He's adept at hiding this stuff from casual acquaintances and seeming very likeable. Only when you get to know him and his guard comes down does a lot of this stuff come out. If you went out with him once or twice you might not notice that it took him 30 minutes longer to get ready than anyone else, but when everyone is outside with their coats on ready to go and he has another half hour of preparation every time, you start to wonder what the heck he's doing, and when you dig into that you're like "oh boy!"

Yes, the point was not to psychoanalyze H, but rather to point out that it's not you, and give you a context (which it sounds like you had) to help you better deal with the situation. (i.e. H is not yelling at me and making chopping hand gestures because he thinks I'm stupid, he feels out of control, that makes him uncomfortable, and he's trying to control his environment through me. In that context, you are not the focus of H's wrath, you're a conduit for his dysfunction.) Might leave you feeling better about it -- or maybe not!