Ken raises a really good point. One of my friends in real life is a former poster here. Her XH married the OW a few days after their D was finalized, and she was already preggers.
Her son (who is now 20) came home from a weekend with his dad very conflicted, and finally spilled the beans to his mom. He told her he felt guilty wanting to know and love his new sibling. She was full of grace when she told him that she WANTED him and his sister to love their sibling with all their heart. They did so with her permission.
The story unfortunately has taken a bizarre, if not sad, twist. Their little brother is now almost 8. Two years ago, he came over to her house with her kids, and is already a wise soul. He asked my friend if it was okay if he was there. She loves kids and embraced this little boy and let him know that it was enough that all 3 of them loved each other and that he was welcome. He asked her last year if she would adopt him. Turns out his dad is still an a*hole and his mom is a self absorbed biatch. And this kid sits right in the middle of it.
You never know when you might be the one adult role model for another kid - a kid whom your D will love. By default, if your D loves her sibling, you're probably going to support her. In the end, it's not the kid's fault.
Good advice from Ken.
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
