Hello and welcome! Your story is not substantially different than many others here, the details are different but the overall sitch is very similar. Read other threads, especially those of people who have been here over a year. It'll give you an idea of what to expect.
You said you read DR in a day, that's fine, but you didn't absorb it all. Read it again and again. Each time you'll get something new out of it.
You were right to quit the R talks with your H. Also just put MC out of your mind, it will do absolutely no good at this stage and it may cause a lot more damage. If your C is pushing for it then you may not have a good C. Keep all talk with your H light and fluffy. Become the person you were when you first met him- independent, sexy, strong, content without him. That's what may attract him back.
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All of my friends and family are telling me I need to give him an ultimatum and he's just stringing me along while he figures himself out.
Did you read the first chapter of DR? MWD discusses this very thing. Your friends and family want you to be happy and mistakenly believe that getting rid of him will make you happy. They're hurting things instead of helping.
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In my heart, I don't feel like pushing him for an ultimatum will do any good.
It's far too early for that. Push now and he'll file for D. Back off and give him time and space.
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He asked me for space and said he needed to be on his own for a while. I'm trying my hardest to give him space, but also want to keep in touch with him but try to keep it light natured for now.
Let him initiate all contact. I know it's hard not to reach out to him, but every time you do you will set yourself farther back. Contact is what YOU want, not HIM. Honor HIS desires for now.
